Another year coming to an end. Better yet, a brand new year is about to begin. For some, that means going back to the gym (I should just go ahead and pencil myself in on that list). For others, perhaps other personal goals are being set now with hopes they last about a week into the new year.
For me, it’s about moving forward. I’ve overcome some pretty tough obstacles this year, and I’ve learned from all of them. So rather than looking at this last year as difficult, I choose to highlight the silver linings. For example:
-Perhaps it is not a no, but just a not yet.
-Yes, I can survive working for a sociopath, and it lead to my finding a great job near my home. With great people!
-Yes, I can find a way to laugh at boggling situations and circumstances.
-Yes, I can learn to be my own self and uphold my own boundaries, even if the person who pushes those boundaries is one dearest in my heart.
-Yes, I can teach in the community about ways to live your best life.
-Yes, I can use my education in energy healing to do just that; heal people.
-Yes, I can write a collaborative piece in a book about a trauma that lead to the darkest period of my life.
-Yes, I can learn to slow down a bit and take some time for myself.
-Yes, I can start my own business AND be on the board in the leading wellness center in my area!
-Yes, I can actually make decisions based on things that are good for me, rather than compromising because of fear that I may disappoint someone.
And yes, I can keep going. Nevertheless, I persist. Looking back at that small list, I see a huge amount of growth. All of that growth sparked from lessons, experiences, and decisions. So yes, while I will keep myself penciled in for the gym, I strive to continue with personal growth and knowledge.
How about you all? What things have you learned you CAN do this year? I’d love to hear your stories of strength and survival!
Until next time!
Lindsey Robinson is a Reiki master healer and Tuning Fork Therapy practitioner at Lotus Wellness Center. To book a session with Lindsey, email: firstname.lastname@example.org
It is Sunday December 3rd and I am sitting in a hotel room in Scottsdale, AZ thinking about how crazy it is we are at the end of 2017. What a quick trip through!
I am thankful though. 2017 has been one of the more challenging years for many people (as according to Facebook!) including myself. Alot of public upsets, public and personal deaths, hospital stays and personal tragedies. Goodbye 2017, we are ready to be done!
What I absolutely love about endings, is that there is always a new beginning right around the corner. In this case, the promise of a new year and a chance to start fresh. It’s like wiping the slate clean and saying, “All right Spirit, let’s try this thing called Life again.”
Usually in December, I tend to be in a reflective mood. I recount all the happenings of the year and reread journals to get a sense of where I have been and what I have been through. It is getting closure by celebrating the wins and putting to rest one last time, the losses…because I never intend to take these losses into the New Year with me.
I thought this was a natural process for everyone but quickly discovered, it was not. At our last New Year New You retreat held in January this past year, Rob and I discovered that people rarely take time to journal and reflect on their experiences. Our students were so excited about their journaling experiences because it brought forward so many realizations and put everything they went through into perspective. It took the emotional charge off of their past hurts and pains and allowed them to sit in the silence of gratitude for the experiences. It was indeed eye opening for some.
The great thing about the end of this year is we also have a mercury retrograde period from December 3rd-December 21st. A Mercury retrograde period according to astrology, is a period when planet Mercury goes backwards in movement. Mercury being the resident planet of communication, logical thinking, technology and transportation means that in a retrograde period, you can almost always see signs of delays in travel, technology malfunction and communication issues arise. People with alot of Virgo and Gemini signs in their natal chart tend to be mostly affected as well. As depressing as it may sound, I have actually come to embrace the Mercury Retrograde periods. Because logic is at bay and emotions are in full swing, I tend to take this time to do some serious reflection and meditation. It is the perfect time for insights to be delivered AND received because psychically, we are more in a state of allowance.
As we slowly wind down the end of this year and get ready for the New Year, I encourage you to use the beautiful energy of this Mercury Retrograde to create closure for 2017 and fill hope for 2018. All of life is a process. We are never going, going, going all the time. Sometimes we need space to just Be, just Breathe and just sit awhile. Let this month be that time for you. I mean, all the planets are aligning for you to have this moment of stillness in time, why not take them up on their offer? 😉
Here are some ideas on how to properly use this energy to set yourself up energetically to be ready for 2018:
As quickly as 2017 came and went, it still happened and for most of us, there were some pivotal moments in time that took our breath away….for good or for bad reasons. Have you processed all of them completely? In my two day New Year New You Workshop, I coined Saturday as “Out with the Old” and Sunday as “In with the New”. On Saturday I take participants through this journaling exercise using a workbook where they answer questions about the year and it asks them to dig deep into understanding what all of it meant. You can do this at home too and create your own workbook according to your desire. It can be as simple as three questions:
The idea here is the have some sort of summary report on 2017 so going forward, when you look back, you can sum it up in one sentence. I saw a post on Instagram by a friend where she described her annual summaries as, “2016 I was the caterpillar, 2017 I was the cocoon and 2018 I will be the butterfly.”
Having an idea of each year gives meaning to your life and tells a story as you go along. You can see the intricacies of how all the painful and joyous moments worked together to create the fabric of your life story. For me, it is empowering. It gives life to the those joyous moments which sparkle like gold glitter in the air and it brings humbleness and gratitude for the painful moments that made me stronger. Everything has a purpose, and in journaling we find out what they are.
2. Declutter the Home
In journaling and reflecting on 2017, you are in a way, energetically clearing up space in your mind, heart and body about events past. Why not physically clear out your physical surroundings as well?
There is an energetic link between our home where we live and our home in our minds. When we feel good at our physical abode, our energetic abode feels good too. Simply put, a clean home makes you feel relaxed mentally and emotionally.
Now is a good time to go through those drawers and throw out things you do not use or have not used in forever. Go through your filing cabinet and shred old documents you no longer need. I remember in cleaning out my office space in 2016, I found old test results from massage school in 2008! I assure you, I have no plans to retake the tests, so out it went with the trash!
Go through your closets and donate clothing and jackets in good condition to homeless shelters or organizations that can use them. This doesn’t have to be a solo event, make it fun for the whole family and treat everyone to a nice dinner after dropping off your items to a donation spot. OR get a jump start on your spring garage sales by rounding up and collecting all sellable items and storing it away in the basement or garage until Spring rolls around. Just remember to bring them out next year and sell or donate them then!
3. Financial Planning
Most of us do not include any financial planning in our lives, living simply paycheck to paycheck. If this has been your agenda in the past, do not bring it into the future with you. Financial planning can take on many forms, from hiring a professional financial planner, to discussing ideas with your accountant to a much simpler plan like the ideas listed here:
4. Make Amends
As we go through life, we have disagreements and upsets with people in our community. Whether it is our inner circle or acquaintances, there are bound to be times of disruption and unrest. Let it go.
As you move into 2018, allow yourself to let go of the drama and heartache you went through this year with these people. If they really mean something to you, then reach out to them and apologize. Even if you don’t think you were in the wrong, apologize anyways. There is a great saying, “It is better to be kind than to be right.” When you apologize and make amends, what you are essentially saying to that person is, “I don’t care if I am wrong and you are right. I just care about having you in my life. Can we make up now? I miss you and want you in my life.”
Of course you cannot dictate how the other person will respond, but trust me when I say, it wouldn’t matter. At the core of your being, you are Love. And in extending an olive branch, you are acting out of Love. If they chose not to accept it, you will still feel relief because you know in your heart, you made the decision to reach out and there is nothing else you can do after that. You will feel lighter despite the outcome and that in of itself, is worth the exercise.
Now there are some relationships where the pain is still too great to bear. Maybe you are in the middle of a divorce and your partner is attacking you. Maybe you still work with your boss who is aggressive in interactions towards you and you are not in a position to leave. You might ask then, what do I do? These people are not interested in making amends or being peaceful. In situations where you feel the person will not be receptive or you are not in an emotional place to do such a thing, then let go energetically.
A simple technique is to light a candle and write your letter to that person saying everything you have ever wanted to say including the good, the bad and the downright ugly. Once you get it ALL out on paper, burn it and make the intention to God/Source/Universe or whoever it may be, that you are letting go of this situation and this person energetically and in the new year, you intend to see them with fresh eyes and hope they do the same for you. It really is like magic! When I have suggested these techniques to my clients in coaching sessions, they have reported back with some amazing results where the other person stopped attacking them and for one person, her boss got transferred to another department! Wishes DO come true!
5. Set your Intentions for the New Year
A home cannot be built without a foundation. Many times in the Spiritual community, I hear students say something like “Spirit is directing me and I have no plan, I go where Spirit is taking me.” That is a great concept but even Spirit needs a map to your future!
If you are not as uptight as my Capricorn self and do not want to create bullet points and quarterly assessments about your new years resolutions (true story), then do a vision board. Cut out pictures that represent what you want for your life. If you want a new home, new car or to be in a love relationship, put pictures on your board that represent those ideals. A Vision Board is a fun way to set your Intent for the New Year and gives Spirit an idea of where you are heading and what you want to create.
I hope you found these tips useful and if so, please feel free to share with your loved ones or leave a comment! It is my sincere hope that everyone brings a peaceful end to 2017 and enter 2018 full of desires, well wishes and manifesting ability. I believe we all are truly meant to have it all, and with a little vision and planning, we can.
Uma Alexandra Beepat is the owner of a metaphysical center in Manassas, VA where she teaches classes in Spiritual Development and offers services in energy healing, life coaching and intuitive readings. For more information, visit www.umalotusflower.com.