Have you ever received a massage and left feeling….let down?
You know what I mean. You are a busy person, you work all the time and the day comes when the stress is unbearable. You feel pain in your body (mostly the back or shoulders) and no matter what home remedies you do, it can’t be healed. If you are like most people, you tend to suffer through the pain, praying and hoping it goes away on its own. But, we all know how this goes…it doesn’t and then without any other options you left, you finally decide to make an appointment for a massage.
Now you don’t have a regular therapist you go to and you figure any massage will do, right? So you look online and find the therapist that is within your budget and time restraints and make your appointment. You think nothing more of it until the day of your appointment and there is a little glimmer of excitement as you walk up to the therapist’s office. NOW you get excited! The idea that for one hour you can relax, do nothing and have someone else take care of you…the idea finally hits home and the anticipation and excitement arises. Finally, you get some TLC.
But invariably it happens. All that excitement was in vain because you walk out of the studio feeling blah. Sometimes even feeling worse than you did before. WHY? How is this even possible? A massage is suppose to make you feel great right?
Most times they do but sometimes, just sometimes, the experience leaves you with a bland taste in your mouth. STOP! Don’t sign off on massages just yet. Read on to discover why you might have had a bad experience and how you can change it in the future to have an awesome experience!
The Key Steps to Receiving a Great Massage:
1) Do your Home work:
Massage therapists are a dime a dozen right now. It is very easy to go to school and get a certificate to work on others in the massage therapy field. I don’t want to “dump” on my fellow therapists because there is no basis to make a general statement. Most of the therapists I have met are truly wonderful, gifted, caring, loving people that sincerely want to help you. They care about your pain and discomfort and want to be part of the healing process. HOWEVER, I would be lying if I told you that every therapist I met is like that. There are a few bad apples in the bunch, be it for whatever reason (not interested in the work, underpaid and angry, tired and frustrated etc…) and they do NOT have your best interest at heart. They show up, clock in and get the work done with no regards to your precious body or energy.
When looking for a therapist, read the reviews and check out social media sites that they are listed on. I am listed on Thumbtack and that’s where I get many clients from but I love the reviews on Thumbtack because it is not solicited from me. Many times I am surprised to go on there and read a review a recent client for me. It is legit and lets future clients know what they can expect from a session and what I am good at.
The best bet in choosing a therapist is finding one that someone from your inner circle uses. If you have a friend or family member that consistently go to the same person, try booking with them! They clearly are doing a good job and have won the favor of your peeps, so that would be a good place to start.
2) Communication is Key
Many times I give a FANTASTIC massage or service but there are a few times, I miss the mark. Why? Because my client does not communicate to me what they need. Hey, its a relationship we are having for the one hour…I can’t read your mind (or can I? =0) so you need to tell me what you need from this session. It doesn’t have to be complex, (“I need you to work my rotator cuff and stretch my sternocleidomastoid)”. Something simple and to the point works best such as, “I am feeling stressed from work, I would like to relax during this session” or “I have a lot of tension in my neck and back, I usually like relaxing massages but can you add a little pressure in those areas.”
Even the best of the best can fall short if they do not know what you want out of the session. Remember it is your session and you get to direct how it goes. During the initial consultation your therapist should ask what you want done or it should be on the intake form for you to fill out. If neither of these choices present itself, SPEAK UP! Before the therapist leaves the room, let them know what you want done, what you want to focus on and stay away from! It will add to the greatness of your session and therefore make you feel even better after its done.
3) Find a therapist that also does Energy Work
I personally love this point because it is what I do! My own massage therapist is a Reiki healer and I can feel the love and energy flowing from her hands when I get my massages. I call her sessions, “Soul Healing” because I feel she is working on my physical body, my mind, my emotions and my spiritual body as well. When you receive a session from a therapist who also dabbles in energy work, their hands will automatically “turn on” when they work on you and this is an extra benefit that comes free with your session!
Now of course I am biased in making this point because I am an energy worker but the more I have learned in this field, the more I realize that problems existing on the body start first in your energy. Why work the plant when you can go straight to the root cause of the problems? Receiving energy work adds to the session because it heals from below the surface. Not only will your pain go away but also too the emotions and feelings associated with it.
4) Open Up and Allow yourself to Heal
Now we turn the table on you! Getting a great session isn’t just the responsibility of the therapist, you absolutely play a role! Yes I am responsible as your therapist to make sure you are comfortable and relaxed. I will provide a safe and warm environment, beautiful room, clean linens, relaxing music and scented lotion to enhance your experience. I will apply my school trained expertise and intuition to the massage and bring about healing as much as I can. However, I cant do squat if you refuse to be part of the process.
Most times you don’t intend to fight me or the massage; I usually get the nervous person who is afraid to undress, or afraid to be touched so that plays a role in your comfort level. I also get clients who are body conscious and apologize for not waxing/shaving legs or washing hair. Relax, as a therapist I have seen it all in my room. Trust me when I say you probably will not bring anything I have not seen already. Put all those worries to the side and focus on what brought you into my studio in the first place; the need to receive healing and relaxation.
When you lie on the table, try to clear your mind by focusing on your breathing. Take deep breaths in and out and allow your mind and body to relax. Notice the surroundings and enjoy the beauty of the environment. Enjoy the smells, sights and sounds…this is becoming tantric in that you indulge the senses and in doing so, you allow the body to fully relax.
As your therapist touches you, allow yourself to sink into the table and be worked on. Most people are afraid to fall asleep, like they will “miss something” but that is not true. Your body and mind will be healed regardless if you are awake or not, just allow yourself to go and float into oblivion!
These are just a few tips but they are important. You can receive immense healing and a relaxing service if you follow them through. We live in a world full of stress and strife, when you allow yourself to relax and completely give of yourself to the session, you come out the winner.
As a therapist, I understandably will encourage you to receive frequent healing sessions. One session a year will not work through your physical/mental/emotional issues. The clients that heal the most are the ones that commit to a regular routine of self care. Just today I worked on a client who use to be sporadic in receiving massages but finally committed to a once a week deal. He loves it! He cant stop raving about how his insomnia issues have improved, he feels better during the day, has more energy and feels more peaceful. I am telling you, I don’t make this stuff up! 🙂
So wherever you are today in the world, follow my four step plan and book your next massage today. If you are in the Virginia area, I would love to work on you! You can make an appointment on my website www.lotuswellnesscenter.net or just shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org
Good luck and happy celebrating the joy of being YOU!
love and light,