HI there! Uma here! and coming to you with this new certification I recently received and my clients have been enjoying. So let’s jump right in, shall we?
What IS Life Coaching?
I know, I know the title is somewhat depressing. I mean when I first heard of it, my initial thought was “So you mean to tell me I suck so bad at life, I need a coach?!” Who wants to hear that ever?
Well turns out, I had a bad attitude about it (foot in mouth syndrome) because not only did I spend a year with a life coach and completely turned my life around, but I became one too!
My Personal Journey
I have my own stuff to worry about. Sometimes people forget I have a back story. They look at the thriving wellness center, my loud and fun personality, my wonderful kids and think “She has it all.” I know this because this is what people have told me. To my face. In real time. And I am always shocked. I have a lot going on too! How do you not see the mess within me?
Now don’t get me wrong, I am an AMAZING healer/speaker/teacher/author (duh!) and it IS because of all the experiences I went through in life however the back story is real. And it was beginning to come to the front more and more.
I spent a year seeing a therapist. Every week. No kidding. I have to say, she did a lot for me. She validated how I was feeling and taught me that my thoughts and feelings are real regardless of how other people felt about it. I am incredibly grateful for her because I don’t think I would be here today without all of her amazing help. However. Once I worked through my ISH, I didn’t know what else to do. I didn’t have anything else to talk about. I was feeling real peaceful with my past. However, I was having some serious issues in my present.
Luckily as faith would have it, a life coach came into my life last year in the form of my boyfriend Rob Pritchard. Rob is the owner of the Healing Frequency and an amazing person and healer. When we initially got together, we thought it was a match made in heaven! Two healers with their own businesses, similar interests and friends dating? How does it get better?
Well it didn’t. It got worse! What no one tells you in this divine match up is that we each became a very good, clean, shiny mirror for the parts of ourselves we weren’t too happy with. I saw myself in full regalia and I didn’t like it one bit.
This is where the life coaching came in. Thankfully Rob didn’t run (whew!) but he chose to help me through it. He knew I was reacting to the mirror and he didn’t take anything personally but kept reminding me of the greatness that lay within me, albeit dormant, but coming to the surface. For a year, I fought with him like a rabid dog on the loose, but he never let up and he never gave in. He remained firm, he remained stoic and I loved him even more.
I came out of 2015 a new woman. I came out feeling confident, sure of myself and for the first time in 38 years, independent. I didn’t need Rob or anyone else for my happiness, I found it within myself. And that is in part due to my own inner work but mostly to Rob’s life coaching skills and me finally taking a knee and listening.
This year I took the certification course in life coaching with Rob because I saw just how beneficial it was and it changed my perspective ALOT on life coaching. A coach is not someone yelling at you and beating you down but instead someone who is more like your partner in helping you achieve your goals.
What is a Life Coach:
I have been all of these things and so much more to my recent clients who have signed on for their coaching sessions. There is so much work to be done and sometimes we can get overwhelmed in life. I recently had a client who felt wishy washy about what she wanted to do in life and her life purpose. After our coaching session, she realized she had a deep desire to follow a path but the amount of work it took made her fearful and anxious, that is why she kept going back and forth.
Right now you are probably thinking, “hmmmm I could probably use a coach myself. I definitely got some areas in my life that need cleaning up.”
So what do you do? Well first there needs to be a deep desire and willingness to want to change and grow. If you come in as a client because someone else is making you do it, it will not work because you are not personally vested. When you are all in the game, I am ready to work with you because I know the desire is there to make a change.
Once you decide to contact a coach and set up your session, you are well on your way! Besides the major result of getting you from where you are now and where you ultimately want to be, there are many other benefits to coaching:
Benefits of Life Coaching:
There are many more reasons why coaching works and has helped so many people in life. The most important reason for me though is Accountability. A Coach will hold you accountable for any steps planned. This is where our friends and loved ones can’t go. They sympathize with us, they understand when we don’t have energy to do our homework because the kids were sick or you need to make dinner. Not a coach! A coach will EMPATHIZE with you but they will not join you in your little pity party. They may give you a day to get yourself together (thanks Rob!) but then its back to the grind.
I loved the accountability part of coaching because sometimes I like many people let certain goals drop. There is a reason why resolutions aren’t completed! As humans we fall somewhere along the line. A coach will keep a running tab on your homework and commit to meeting you at the finish line. Trust me, my coach is still here. 😉
So do you think this is for you? Can I be your coach? Sure I can! It just takes your determination to decide so. I am so excited about this new certification i have that I want to share it with you! So for the month of April, I am offering a 30% discount on the 90 minute session I created for my clients. It involves coaching to go through the issues you are dealing with and we end with some Reiki energy work to balance and soothe your energy.
Don’t wait! Book this appointment today! Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. You can also opt to have a one hour coaching session without Reiki whether in person or by phone as well!
Until next time,
Love and light
xo Uma xo
HI there! Uma here and if you have been following me on social media recently you would have seen an upsurge of posts on Access Bars.
What is the Bars you ask? Only the most AMAZING modality I have experienced to date! I fell so in love with this modality that I not only took the certification course to become a practitioner but I also went all the way to become a Facilitator so I can assist other people in incorporating the Bars into their lives.
Access Bars is one part of the larger modality called Access Consciousness. Before you get to know the Bars, you need to know about Access Consciousness first. It is a movement really focused on creating a world of consciousness and oneness. Taken from the Access Consciousness website, (www.accessconsciousness.com),
“It is our target to get you to the point where you receive from Access the awareness of everything, with no judgment of anything. If you have no judgment of anything, then you get to look at everything for what it is, not for what you want it to be, not for what it ought to be, but just for what it is.
Consciousness is the ability to be present in your life in every moment, without judgment of you or anyone else. It is the ability to receive everything, reject nothing, and create everything you desire in life – greater than what you currently have, and more than what you can imagine.
The target of Access is to help get you to the point where you are conscious enough to create change within you. Access offers tools and processes that make it possible to change everything that is not working in your life. Once you become more conscious, it will be easier for you to thrive in the face of the shifts that are occurring everywhere on the planet right now.”
Access is a different point of view about life. It’s about seeing all the things that you always knew should be possible but didn’t know how to receive, with no judgment about the choices made in the past or future. Access gives people real life tools to use which can help them get to where they would like to be.
The Bars is what can be said to be the core or foundation of Access. They are 32 bars of energy that run through and around a person’s head that connects to different aspects in life. The Bars store the electromagnetic component of all thoughts, ideas, attitudes, beliefs and decisions that you have ever had about anything.
For example, there is a bar for Control. Any thought you have ever had about control that you considered important, the energy of that thought is stored in the bar Control. There are bars for healing, money, creativity, body; 32 different ones in all. Touch one bar and you begin to clear away the energy locked up in that area of your life.
So what happens in a session? My client would come in and get on my table fully clothed. There is no music (interferes with the removal of stored energy) and if clients are wearing watches, I ask them to remove them (the Bars can affect your timepieces!). And that’s it! My clients lay comfortably on the table and chat with me as I run their bars. Most talk for half the session and begin to feel very sleepy midway through and they take a nap. They awake by the end, feeling refreshed, rejuvenated and even looking younger! Man, how easy is that? 🙂
How do you feel after a session? Worst case scenario you feel like you had an incredible massage, the best case scenario? Your life changes for the better!
I love seeing the changes in my clients when I run their Bars consistently. I have a retired female client who comes in once a week for her Bars to be run and she always leaves feeling younger, with more energy and joy!
So don’t wait or learn about it, come experience a session for yourself! At my studio, we (Myself, Rob and Diane) charge $120/session and your first session can run anywhere from 60minutes-90minutes. As a special first time offer for you, I would love to offer this session at HALF OFF! Yup, you heard me! Book with me in the month of February and you can get your Access Bars session for only $60! How does it get any better than this?
Email me at email@example.com to make your appointment now and mention code: BLOGBARS for your discount. I look forward to running your bars!
Until next time,
Love and light,
Hi there, Uma here and man am I ready to write this post! From my own personal experience and recently talking to several people in the past few weeks i have been incited. And of course, what better way to deal with it than blog about it? (blush)
So here’s the thing, I am going to make a statement right now and it may have you in agreement with me (keep reading) or not (no shame, abandon post now) but it has to be said because I am really tired of the world’s insensitivity to people that are hurting. I say world because I am not calling anyone out in my personal life (you know who you are) and for people I have been talking to, it runs the gamut from family to lovers to friends to coworkers. It is just not ok.
Listen….we all have something we are dealing with. If you are walking around with not a care in the world, no luggage, no pain and no suffering, really move on, this is not the post for you.
This post is for the people I KNOW are suffering and doing so silently because they are afraid to speak up or share because they are tired of the judgments and criticism. I am choosing to be the voice of these people today. So here…we….go….
I met a woman at my studio who came in to talk about some matter in her life with her relationships. However, the more we talked and the deeper down we went, we touched on the fact that she was molested as a child. I held space for her as she talked and talked and talked about it until she couldn’t talk anymore. I was intently listening and very involved emotionally as I felt for her but at the very end, she said something to me that made the hair raise up on the back of my neck. She said, “Thank you Uma for listening. I guess that’s all I really wanted, to be heard and not be judged.” I told her that was preposterous, who can judge her in this situation? To which she replied, “My ______ (family member) told me to get over it because there was no penetration, only touch.” Shock.
This is the world we live in. A world where we are so insensitive that we allow crap to come out our mouths and hurl it at other people. Now you see why I am incited? Oh but wait, there’s more stories like this to come.
Here’s the thing folks. You cannot RATIONALIZE someone else’s pain. How do you even begin to justify that?! When you try to rationalize something, you are consciously analyzing the thing you are rationalizing. You are completely out of the field of emotions, where the pain is stemming from.
The next time you are blessed to be in the presence of someone hurting (I say blessed because clearly they trust you enough to share their pain with you) do one of two things and ONLY these two things:
2. I am not hearing YOUR advice about MY pain if your advice includes YOU more than I
Sigh. So, we are creatures of habit and usually our habits are shown in our speech. You can tell a lot about a person from their speech and how many selfies they take. A couple of months ago I met a woman at one of my workshops at my studio. She came with a friend and it was a workshop on “Letting Go”. We talked about relationships and how all relationships had a natural end. Most times, people tend to stay longer than they are supposed to and they then experience suffering as a result as the relationship no longer holds value for either participants. This woman was in awe. Clearly the workshop was hitting home and I noticed it in her eyes but I didn’t want to draw attention to her so I kept talking and made sure to keep my eyes roaming freely around the room. Finally she spoke up to say what I suspected, this talk was exactly what she needed because she was in an on again and off again relationship with someone and she is now seeing it clearly for the first time. Well, no sooner had she said that when her friend started jumping up and making a real show of herself. “Omg I have told you many times, over and over the SAME thing Uma is saying!” As the conversation continued between me and the woman in front of the class (I had her consent to use her personal situation as an example), her friend would chime in every time I said something that resonated with the woman. “Yep, I said the same thing.” “Yep I said that too.” And on and on this went until she finally got the woman to admit out loud to everyone that she was right and she had said the same things to her over the years.
Folks, I know you need validation. Heck, we all need it but you getting validation at another’s expense is not pretty. It is actually downright ugly. If you are the friend who gives people advice and they never take it…..you need to take a step back and realize it is one of two things:
– If you give advice to people and they don’t follow it and what you said will happen, happens….you usually follow that up with a big ole serving of “I TOLD YOU SO”
– You give advice to people and they decide to follow you on it and then suffer the consequences of you holding it over them for the rest of their life. It sounds something similar to this “You should be THANKFUL for me because of ALL I DO FOR YOU”
Ok there is no judgment here, Lord knows I have used these techniques too so if you are guilty of these behaviors, just admit it and make amends within yourself to be better about being a better person to your loved ones. What is the appropriate way to give advice? I have no clear cut answer for you, what I can share with you is what works for me with my clients that allow them to take my advice:
I can go on and on about respecting other people’s pain and suffering but we will stop here now. I feel like I have gotten it off my chest lol, I do feel lighter. My hope is simple. Read this and practice it. If you know of someone in your life right now who is hurting, make a commitment to be there for them as much as you can. I say that last part because there are a few people out there who do like staying miserable, but that is a topic for another time.
If you like this blog post and would like to hear more about pain, suffering and unrequited love or maybe ask me personally your own questions into your own situation, come to my event on Sunday February 7th at the Intuitive Wellness Center in Burke. It is called “Love Redefined: Understanding Today’s Relationships”. For more information and to RSVP, please visit: http://www.meetup.com/thelotusandthelight/events/227974559/
Until next time, have a Namaste and stay beautiful inside and out
Love and light,
It is 9.30pm on January 1st as I write this and I am well aware it is a little improper for me to be wishing you a happy new year but nevertheless I do.
I love the energy of a new year’s day. It is so full of hope and wishes, new intentions and resolve for us to be bigger, better, brighter than we were the year before.
Yes most times we break those new year resolutions but for the most part, we are an optimistic species because new year resolutions are still a “thing” despite many seeing it as a fad, it has withheld the test of time.
There are a couple of things I do at the end of one year and the beginning of the next and you know, I never change it or question it because every year has been a good year, with lots of growth and understanding so in my mind, why fix it when it’s not broken?
Let’s see, the week leading up to New Year’s day, I tend to keep the house in order and clean up or throw out things no longer of use. The day of New Year’s Eve, I make sure all the laundry is done and the trash is taken out. This is telling of my Guyanese background as it was considered tradition to enter the new year with a clean home.
Another cultural observation of New Year’s Day is to make black eye peas and leave it on the stove. Most of my family and friends make cook up rice which include black eye peas in the recipe but I prefer to just cook up some black eye peas on the stove and leave it out. The understanding is that black eye peas invite prosperity and abundance to your home, so you should meet the new year with some on your stove. Hey! This is the stuff old wives tales are made of, so somewhere along the line, it must have worked and hence carried forward generation after generation!
Another New Year’s tradition for me is to make a vision board. I LOVE doing this because I always go into it with my expectations of what I want and by the time I am done, Spirit has another plan for me. I love my board for 2016 because it involves a lot more introspection, meditation and introverted behavior, which is my nature (I know, I know I can be the life of the party but deep down, I really am an introvert). I also inspired Rob to do one of his own and he is excited to see what Spirit has in store for him (big hint-we match up perfectly in love and in life).
I have also completed my annual reading where I pull 14 cards to tell the energy and events of each month (if you would like me to do yours, click here for more info). It is such an affirmation when your reading lines up with your vision board which lines up with your energy. It is all coming together and I am excited to see it play out this year!
Finally I make a resolutions list. Yes I do! I know many people are against making new year resolutions but I will leave them with this thought. How do you approach a project? Do you go into it letting the chips fall where they may or do you have an outline or plan of action? Of course having a plan makes you accomplish that project quickly and with the best results. If you have a plan to become a millionaire in this lifetime, will you wait to win the lottery or will you go about saving a little each year and investing your money to make it happen? I rest my case.
If you have goals and dreams to accomplish, don’t wait! Start on them now and make your resolutions to either accomplish them this year or at least make some headway. For example, I plan to publish my second book, “Love Redefined” and it has twelve chapters. I plan to write a chapter a month and finish it by December to promote and publish next year. Challenge accepted.
I will admit I do not accomplish all my goals (I am Capricorn-a high achiever if you ever knew one!) but I do get a lot of satisfaction with the ones I do accomplish because it shows me, physical proof that I did something with my life and the year was not wasted. How many times have you heard people say the time flew by and they don’t know what they did with their year? Not me! I can tell you with a straight face I have accomplished a 10 day fast with no foods, global volunteered in Brazil, read 12 books and grew my business exponentially in 2015. I lived!
So if you are serious about your goals and want to start with new year resolutions good for you! You are on the right track and I can help with some tips by giving you the top 5 resolutions everyone should make every year. Last year in 2015 I completed 14 out of 17 goals, yah me! This year I upped the ante by making 30 resolutions. Ooohhh, I can’t wait to make them happen! Of those 30, there are 5 that are repeated every year and this should be part of your resolutions as well:
1) New Year’s Resolution #1- Address a Fear
Every year I address one of my fears (yes I am admitting I am human and have fears) by including it as one of my resolutions. Last year in 2015 I had not so much a fear but uncertainty that I can go long periods of time without food. So I took part in the Master Cleanse fast which meant 10 days of no food and only drinking a lemonade mixture to keep you going. It was brutal but it was worth it because the empowering feeling I had after was amazing.
When you set out to conquer a fear and you do it, you feel unstoppable and confident that you can tackle anything. You don’t have to go in with a large resolution like mine, start small. List your fears or uncertainties and pick one that you can do but just avoid doing because it makes you feel uncomfortable. Start with say a bikini wax or sky diving if you want! Whatever it is, large or small, it will give you a sense of empowerment and that will trickle into every part of your life.
2) New Year’s Resolution #2-Increase your Savings Account
If you haven’t already created a savings account, now is the time to. If you don’t believe in the banking system, then buy a safe and save at home. Bottom line, we all need to have a stash put aside for a rainy day. You don’t know what life can bring so saving money for that rainy day will bring you peace of mind now and when it happens.
The goal is to have six month’s worth of finances safely tucked away so if you are unable to work, you can pay your bills and continue living for the next six months while you figure out what you need to do. You don’t have to push yourself and stress yourself out, move at your pace! If you need to have $12,000 in savings ($2,000/month) give yourself three years to accomplish that goal. This way if you have a new year’s resolution to save $4,000 this year it works out to putting aside $300 a month. Of course you can try to accomplish it in one year, but remember resolutions are not meant to stress you out, it is meant to keep you on track with your goals and hold you accountable. Take as long as you need to reach it.
3) New Year’s Resolution #3- Do Something Healthy
Let’s not expect miracles here! As much as I would love to lose 50 pounds, the most I am realistically expecting to take off this year and keep off is 10. The understanding is that you want to live healthy so as you age and get older, you can live fitfully and easily in your body with minimum aches, pains and medical conditions.
Weight loss as Oprah has identified is a tricky event and is less about physical action than it is about mental attitude. If you can see your weight loss journey as a pyramid, it will stand tall and looming over you….and you know what? It should. It has taken you a lot of years to put this weight on, it will not disappear overnight. Instead of focusing on the weight, focus on increasing healthy behavior. Try to incorporate more wellness activities into your life such as walking, yoga or dance. Try to tackle the unhealthy food habits and love of junk food and bit by bit, when you do these things, you start to chip away at that pyramid from the base. Eventually over time it will crumble and you will be free from the dieting yo-yo regimen that has been your life.
My goals this year include restarting my yoga routine and choosing healthier snacks. I am no longer going to eliminate snacking from my diet but make better choices. Instead of reaching for a piece of cake, I will have a yogurt and granola mix instead. If I can keep choosing healthier, it nourished my body and helps me keep the weight off as well.
4) New Year’s Resolutions #4-Include the Family
If you have kids or pets, it is important you also include a resolution to do something for them that they cannot do for themselves. Being the owner of a wellness center, I teach and provide services of a metaphysical nature. As a result, my children grew up practicing yoga in their bedrooms, meditation and other things. This year I plan to complete both of their Reiki trainings (Nathan is level II and Joshua is level I) and increase their daily meditation times.
When you put emphasis on someone else and make it part of your resolutions list, it will come about because it is part of the plan. Listen, we are all good parents and we all try our best to do right by our kids (and pets!) but sometimes we fall short. We fall short because we are tired, busy or have other things to do. Its ok! It happens to all of us, including the super moms and super dads out there. By putting your loved ones on the resolutions list, you are committing to spending quality time with them and not overlooking them. You will feel great about it as they will too.
5) New Year’s Resolutions #5-Grow Yourself
And finally one of the resolutions you must make every year is a commitment to you. We are all students of life and if we do not keep learning, we will stop growing. Stop growing in spirit, in mind and in evolution. Every year I sign up for continuing education classes for my massage therapy license and other licenses I need CEUS for but I also enroll in personal enrichment courses or read books to grow myself as well.
Spiritual enrichment doesn’t need to be about studying alone either. You can take up a new hobby, learn a new dance or recipe or do something you normally won’t do. The idea is to grow your knowledge base and allow expansion in. The more you learn, the more you grow and you become a more open minded person. As we know especially now, the world needs more of that, open minded people.
So in closing dear reader, my wish for you is simple. Live 2016 the best way you can and don’t look back. Make this year fabulous and live it large! I have faith you will do it better than years past and will have much to show for it at the end of the year.
Until next time,
Love and light,
Do you consider yourself a believer in the Law of Attraction? You may not know it as that but how about I ask a few simple questions to see where you land? Ok, here we go:
If you answered yes to one or all of these questions, then chances are you have been exposed to the Law of Attraction! The Law of Attraction simply states that we attract to us what we want, i.e- Energy begets energy.
We are such wonderful, complete emotional beings that have come back to earth with the inherent need to feel all sorts of different emotions. Because of this, we live our lives in the duality that exist between our hearts and our mind.
How does this duality come about? Our minds will continually ask for something over and over again but our heart will negate the request. Why would the mind do this? Sometimes we are just trying to keep up with the Joneses, other times we feel we deserve it or we simply believe this will make everything better and right in our world.
In reality we have not gone into our heart space to see what we really want, desire and feel we can obtain.
Because of this duality, conflict arises within our being. And how do we deal with conflict? The majority of us go through life sweeping everything under the rug because we do not want to deal with it or sometimes we just do not have the emotional intelligence to understand what is happening.
This “stuff” continues to grow and eventually all our thoughts and actions become governed by it. We soon find that we are reacting to our past and not what is in our present. This leads us to feel like no matter what we do, we keep getting the same outcome. Then in the middle of all this confusion and mayhem within ourselves, life throws people into the mix to weigh in on your dilemma. People will tell us to look for the lesson in all the drama but how can you when you don’t even understand what is happening?
There are lessons in everything and you can discover them for yourself. Before you start delving into the spiritual side of life, you need to define your reality. If you change your thoughts you will eventually change your mind and there you go, you will change your reality. Perception=Reality.
Take those rose colored glasses off! Wake up and understand that your perception is forming your reality. We see it every day when people differ on what they see. I see a shirt and say it is orange and my friends might say it is peach. Perception differs from person to person.
Your perception is based off of everything you have learned and experienced from your past until now. So, then your next question should be…..How do we move past our perception and create a better reality for ourselves?
You start with first understanding that perception like ego is here to serve us and keep us safe in the world. Your judgments, your beliefs and your stubbornness to change is rooted in fear. Fear actually serves a purpose for many people. It keeps them safe. Safe in this instance= Alive.
Fear of gain is stronger than the fear of loss and what I mean by that is the thing which is familiar is stronger and more acceptable than what is unfamiliar. Familiarity will hold us in our perception to make the same choices over and over again. You don’t date the same bad boy over and over again because you enjoy it. No! You date him because you know him.
Everything in life comes down to vibrations…don’t want to take my word for it? Ask the scientists! Einstein led the cause and the rest of them supported that all of the world is energy and we attract to ourselves what our vibration is. What you need to know is that the vibrations sent out from your heart is stronger and more potent than the vibrations sent out by your mind. Ahhh.
As you think in your heart so you exist. You may think you need a six figure salary but if you feel in your heart like you don’t deserve that money, then you will never achieve it.
So if you want to do the affirmations, go ahead and do them. What you are doing is impressing your thoughts → to impress your consciousness → to impress your subconsciousness → to reach your super consciousness which is another way of saying your soul level or your heart.
Everything that you have not dealt with emotionally lies in your heart. You must go back and do the heart work to uncover your truth, accept, understand and cherish yourself for how you helped yourself through the good times and the bad before you can really start to find your life purpose.
If you do this work, you will find what really makes you tick and you will discover who you really are. How did it all start? Where did the drama come from? We need to go into ourselves before we try to work with things like the Law of Attraction because we need to know what is really in our hearts or else we will get spotty at best results.
If you need help with the self-work, that’s what I love to do and why I chose my career! At Lotus Wellness Center I see clients for my five week plan called Your Path, Your Journey™. Over the course of five weeks we meet for one 90 minute session each week where we discuss your goals and the challenges blocking you from reaching your desired potential. Each session includes life coaching, theta healing, Access Consciousness® and Reiki. You can always contact me for more information on (703) 966-6878 or firstname.lastname@example.org.
The mind is a tricky thing, it can make or break your existence. Go into your heart and discover what you really want. The heart holds the answers for a successful life.